And maybe that’s also the tough part to sit with:the unfairness of it all. Not to sound too much like a child complaining but sometimes, things are not fair! And when the responsibility of healing, of processing, of unlearning, of challenging everything you have been told, of struggling, of remembering, of trying so hard to just “move on” is all on you - it plain old sucks. There is no other way around it. So what do we do?